Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem, kindness creates a blessing. These two sides of love are the corner stones on which many other attributes are to be pointed out.
Love makes you kind. And kindness makes you likeable. When you are kind, people want to be around you. They see you as being good to them and good for them. Kinder people simply find favor wherever they go.
Gentleness. When you are operating from kindness, you are careful how you treat your spouse. That means never being unnecessarily harsh. You are sensitive, and tender. And even if you think you need to say hard things, you will bend over backwards to make your rebuke or challenge as easy to bear as possible. It’s how to speak the truth in love. And being kind also means you meet the need of the moment by being gentle and helpful when there are visible needs to care for.
Willingness. Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn you cooperate, and you stay flexible. Rather than complaining and making excuses you look for reasons to compromise and accommodate. A kind husband and or wife ends thousands of potential arguments by being willing to listen first rather than demanding his or her way. Something for couples to contemplate.
Maybe the years of marriage take the edge off your desire for one another. Maybe your enjoyment in marriage is still linked to the daily level of kindness still being expressed. Never wait for your spouse to be the kind one first.
It can be difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little or no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward for you. The key is you will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness. Period!! (My thoughts with The Love Dare, p.p. 6-8).