Equality in Marriage

Romantic love is based on mutual respect and equality. The kind of love that builds a marriage cannot thrive if one person dominates the relationship and the other is overly submissive and not respected. Equality values the contributions, talents, ideas, gifts, perspectives, and uniqueness of your spouse. In that kind of connection, both spouses can become more of who they are supposed to be. This mutuality spills over into other settings, where each shows validation and respect in front of others instead of using criticisms and put-downs to try and show who rules.

From infancy, we need to know that we are desired. Otherwise we get a feeling of being an intruder. It is so important to communicate with your spouse. It can’t be said enough that communication is a key in keeping your love alive. Learn what causes your spouse to feel desired, and then act on what you learn.

As humans we desire to be touched, hugged, and nurtured physically. Physical contact expresses so many needs. Desire, equality, security, and acceptance are all expressed through physical contact. Sexual fulfillment is a big part of God’s design for a couple “becoming one.” Yes, it’s intended to be respectful, mutual, accepting, and desirous, all with the feeling of being free and secure with your expressions.

Another important attribute needed in your marriage is time. Love needs quality time. Almost no relationship ever meets the needs of each person from the beginning of being joined together. It takes time to develop love in your own unique way. That includes maturity to grow your relationship by getting to know each other’s needs. For you to meet your spouse’s needs in an increasing measure, an investment of your time is so essential.

Equality, communication, physical touch, sexual fulfillment, and time all need to be addressed by reaching out so you can fulfill your spouse’s needs. It will be worth all your effort (My added thoughts with Rescue Your Love Life, p. 48).

Sherry