Patterns in Your Marriage
If you are in a marriage where you live as a married couple, but have a divided live style, you need help. It isn’t fun or in any way enjoyable to feel like life together is always at odds. What are the repeated patterns?....... Pray to dispose of them. If you are not strong in your prayer life, but haphazardly send a prayer now and again, you don’t have that personal connection with the One that can fix anything. It’s the one thing that is vitally needed for letting God know how much you love Him. That’s where you begin and when you will start seeing results in your married life. If you can’t express yourself to your spouse, get on your knees repeatedly and unload on Jesus. He cares, He listens, He desperately wants to help and it’s the only way you are going to get into the heart of your spouse. God is in the miracle business. Ask Him to guide your day, to control your thoughts, to take over your schedule. He’s waiting for you and will respond. He knows you from deep within, he knows your spouse in the same way. HE WILL WORK ACCORDINGLY TO THE HEARTS THAT ARE OPEN FOR HELP. He never pushes, but patiently guides. Realize what your contributions are to the patterns. If you are not aware of what your spouse counts as your short comings, ask God for wisdom and humbly ask your spouse to pinpoint what it is you may be doing. But, to be fair, they have to allow you to do the same. Then, be humble and listen…….BOTH OF YOU. Marriages that truly succeed are marked by, if you’re more concerned about how your own issues affect the marriage than about your spouse’s issues. Be determined to look at yourself without excuse or blame. This is very difficult. No one wants to be the person to blame. Buck it up – it takes two and you are both at fault. Be determined in your heart to deal with the ongoing pattern of issues. But mostly pray, and pray, and pray, and pray even more with an open heart to let Jesus in to solve your broken lives. Oh, yes, it’s worth the effort. There are many marriages out there that share the same repeated patterns that you do. Let the hope for a better marriage begin with Jesus entering the triangle. Sherry