Marriage Needs a Priority Position

Many couples talk together or to a friend about what’s important regarding their marriage, but the bottom line is what you do about it. One thing the world will not do is to give your marriage a priority position in life. If your relationship is esteemed, it is because you have made it so. If it is prized, it is because you prize it. If you and your spouse have had the desperately needed time to interact with one another in a meaningful manner it’s not because your culture decided to give it to you. It’s because you took the time yourself because you cared enough about what is important for your own marriage. Prioritizing is a way of life. If not, then you would be constantly at work determining what is important to you and what is not. And the product of your decision making is evidenced by what, or whom, you invest your time and energies into. Couples who place their relationship in a high-priority position have the greatest potential for achieving what they want out of the marriage. Those who do not, have a lesser potential. It’s as simple as that. High priority offers no guarantees, but the odds certainly do get better. If your marriage is truly valued, it is because you have decided to value it. Its priority is recognized by what you give it in time and energy. Your genuine investment will tell the story. Those of you who do not place your marriage in a place of high priority will drift away from each other. Which will lead you down a path acting as a vacuum that will suck the energy out of both of you and will tear apart your home. Your marriage does not have to drift off course. You must take the time to communicate as a couple so you can find out where you want your marriage to be. The question is, are you happy with Ho-Hum or do you want to experience true happiness (My thoughts with Quiet Times for Couples, page 312)? Sherry