Making Good Changes in Your Marriage
If you have relational conflicts in your marriage, here’s some guidelines as suggestions to follow.
You need to be specific about what your wants and needs are. An example is to state clearly that you desire certain things.
Emotional connectedness (that alone sounds tough when you really think about it).
Honesty (that can be hard when there’s a lack of trust in your marriage).
Sharing time (you must be determined to set aside time to be together).
Respect (entails many avenues in many areas –discuss what respect means to both of you).
Affirmation (so needed for encouragement to boost your images).
Touch (It’s something that doesn’t take much effort, but bridges hurts and says volumes).
The above mentioned are a few things to think about and to get busy with. Being married and showing a bit of care, gentleness and a tone of concern are things that must be worked on every day.
Start slowly with trying to clear the air of any anxiousness and the coldness that has frosted over what should be a bit of heaven on earth experience. Gain back the warm and loving feelings that will give your marriage a closeness you’ve longed for, for way too long.
Being on the same page isn’t always easy, especially when you are opposites in personalities and one wants it one way and the other wants things done in their way. It will always cause tension, and therefore supports the breaking down of the marital bond.
Pray that you can work together. I don’t just say that lightly. It takes zipping your mouth shut when you have something negative to say to your spouse and opening your mouth in prayer to the creator, our God of love. God can mend and fix any marriage if both of you are open to receive His advice. It can turn out to be a blessing for both of you.
Sherry