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Demonstrating Kindness

Love is kind and kindness in turn, is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem, and kindness creates a blessing. One is preventive, and the other proactive. These two sides of love are the cornerstones on which love in a marriage are built. Love makes you kind and kindness makes you likable. When you are kind, people want to be around you. They see you as being good to them and good for them. Kind people simply find favor wherever they go. Gentleness. When you are operating from kindness, you are careful how you treat your spouse and you are never unnecessarily harsh. You are sensitive and tender in your actions. Even if you need to say hard things, you will bend over backwards to make your rebuke or challenge as easy to hear as possible. You will always speak the truth in love. And the response you get will be returned with love. Helpfulness. Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment. If its a task that needs done, you get motivated and do it. If it's a listening ear; you give it Kindness graces a wife with the ability to serve her husband without worrying about her rights. Kindness makes a husband curious to discover what his wife needs. With both the wife and the husband it is good to step forward and ensure that your spouses needs are met, even if your tasks get put on hold. Willingness. Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn, you cooperate, and you stay flexible. Rather than complaining and making excuses, you look for reasons to compromise and accommodate. A kind spouse will end all those potential arguments by being willing to listen first rather demanding their own way. Initiative. Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. It doesn't sit around waiting to be prompted or coerced before getting off your butt. The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and ultimately forgives first. They don't require the other to get his or her act together before showing love. When acting from kindness, you see the need, then make your move.....first! If you think about it, wasn't kindness one of the qualities that drew you and your spouse together? When you got married you knew then you were expecting to enjoy your spouses kindness for the rest of your life. Even though the years can take the edge off that desire, (it really shouldn't) your enjoyment in marriage is still linked to the daily level of kindness expressed. Don't wait for your spouse to be kind first. Make it a habit. Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man (Proverbs 3;3-4). Gently, helpfully, willingly, take this way of acting to heart and show kindness at all times. Pray for motivation if you feel little or no impulse to do so. Love in the truest sense is not based on feelings, but love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no rewards. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness (My thoughts with The Love Dare, page 6-9). Sherry

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