You can tell a lot about the state of a couple’s relationship from the way they greet each other. Their expressions and countenance, as well as how they speak to one another. It is also very obvious by their physical contact. How do you meet friends, coworkers, and neighbors or even those you see in public? You encounter someone you don’t necessarily like yet you still acknowledge them out of courtesy. So if you are this nice and very polite to other people doesn’t your spouse deserve the same - times ten?
Consider the first thing you say to your spouse when you wake up. What’s the look on your face when you pass each other? What about the energy in your voice when you receive a call from them? Wouldn’t there be a pleasant difference in your their day if everything about you expressed the fact that you were really glad to see them?
When someone communicates that they are glad to see you, your personal sense of self-worth increases. You feel more important and valued. That’s because a good greeting sets the stage for a positive and healthy interaction. A loving greeting can bless your spouse by what they see, hear, and feel. A simple, but kind word, a touch, and the tone of your voice, speaks volumes.
Think of the opportunities you have to greet each other on a regular basis; when coming through the door, when meeting for lunch, when saying good-night or when receiving a phone call. How you answer your phone is another way that speaks volumes. It doesn’t have to be bold or dramatic. Adding warmth and enthusiasm gives you the chance to touch your spouse’s heart with subtle kindness, and unspoken ways.
Does your spouse feel valued and appreciated? Is there love in the air in your home? Even if you’re in a conflict, you can lessen the tension and give them value by the way you greet them.
Always remember that love is a choice. So choose to love. (My thoughts with The Love Dare, pp., 41-43).